Rondal
And whole beasts of nations desire power
- Joined
- Apr 26, 2016
- Messages
- 2,953
- Nebulae
- 5,656
tl;dr - a bigass dump of recent feelings
You guys ever get that feeling of failure? Pure, utter irreversible failure?
I've felt for a lot my adulthood that I've failed to succeed where others have, and rapidly get the sense of dread that what I'm doing is, again, irreversible. This thread is kind of an opening out about those experiences, I don't really have anywhere else to vent about it.
I spend a lot of my time following my hobbies, being with my friends and attempting to have some form of social life, however, when it comes to more complex scenarios I fall apart. I've been slowly losing friends over the years, and the sense of foreboding that comes with that feels like it threatens me in the long run- like I'll lose all of them in due time.
I don't really have success with reading other people, and as such I spend a lot of my time chasing after others that have no interest in me. This is kind of a bounce off a recent encounter, but throughout my life I've always struggled with being led on or failing to recognise the signs that someone just isn't into you- it's repetitive.
I struggle with confidence. I struggle with academics, mostly at my own hand. A lot of time I spend trying to actually apply myself to my education just falls apart, mentally I really struggle to fit myself into the Engineering degree that I'm currently working towards, and I've actually had to start over university years halfway into my second year by changing universities from how much I found the education difficult to push through.
The confidence doesn't really go unnoticed either, I'm always struggling to see myself in a positive light. I find it incredibly difficult to look at myself with positivity when in the mirror or in photographs, and self-care is something I've been slowly pushing, but struggle with all too well. I hate my face, I hate my body and its shape - I consider myself ugly. That's the truth about what I think of myself, I don't really want to dress it up anymore, I just honestly don't view my physical appearance in any positive light.
I also really put myself down on social encounters too for my confidence, it remains a part of my mindset that a lot of my friends are talking negatively behind my back, or rather they aren't being truthful when they 'act' friendly around me. Deep down, I know it's not true of course, I've been friends with some of these people for ten years now- I just cannot shake the way I would feel in the heat of the moment. A single comment out of line could throw my head into the deep end of - do they like me? what did they mean by that? but recently I've been learning to suppress it, particularly thanks to my CBT therapy sessions (I've never taken therapy until now, so it's new to me entirely).
Concluding this short about me, I've written it as kind of a way to push my thoughts out. I struggle mentally with a lot of these thoughts and don't feel like I can really come forward to my friends about it as easily right now, at least for now. My twenty-second birthday is coming up next week, and part of me is filled with a sense of dread and partially guilt, I feel like I'm failing those around me by being so far behind in everything I do. My friends have graduated, mostly with first degrees, and I'm still in my early years. Am I the failure? I don't know. This is just something I kind of wanted to speak about, even if it's not listened to, typing it out feels cathartic- parting way with the words somewhat.
Thanks for listening to this, if you did.
Reactions:
List