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Finally, understand and appreciate your own worth - don't judge yourself on the actions of somebody who is no longer a major part in your life. Of course, learn from the mistakes of previous relationships, but use them to improve your prospects in the future.

Hope you manage to get through it, first couple of weeks and months are always difficult but with time you'll soon find that things you were previously upset about mean so little in your life anymore. Peace x

Thank you so much for your kind words. Yeah, I go running a lot so that kind of makes me feel better.

My condolences with what your ex did to you.. I'm honest, I couldn't provide what she needed and the relationship was toxic, so I called it off, yet it kind of hurts seeing that shit, it was my longest relationship, after all :/
Plus with me moving to the NL soon, I just didn't think I should keep the relationship up idk man

Distance is hard, you're making the right decision because it's for you and that's the most boss thing you could do.

Believe me when I say it was one of the hardest decisions of my life, as during the time I was also kicked out of my home, so I was not at a good place mentally for a solid few months noe

You ignore it, that’s not part of your life anymore. Talk to other people and don’t pay any attention to anything relating to them, you’re just torturing yourself at that point.

remember you're under no obligation to stay a part of someone's life, and that there is no shame in blocking someone across all platforms, cutting them off permanently

it will hurt in the short term, but depending on the kind of person you are, it may also be beneficial for your own mental health

don't let accusations of selfishness or immaturity stop you from not "being friends" with an ex; because they're almost never good relationships to have for various reasons (if they work for you that's nice, but it doesn't for lots of others)

in general, separate yourself from the person, find yourself again and move on - you got this

I know it's not part of my life anymore. I've been trying to block her on everything, just like she has done to me, but I feel kinda lonely and seeing me replaced so quickly does hurt a lot, ngl. Worst thing is, even when I have something with other people I gotta think abt her and it really pisses me off.

That's the problem though. If you seek a replacement, that relationship is bound to fail. It was the case with my last one, I just wanted to get over my ex and in the end didn't get over her during the relationship and hurt me and her in the process.

You don’t have to find a replacement but you do need to talk to others to realise that you can and build back confidence.

You’ll be alright. You’re just currently hurting and spending too much time thinking about it.

I don't wanna hijack Gungeonner's talk because i kind of felt hurt at that moment that he received so much support then me when i was that spot. Sorry.

did u reach out to anyone @Earthnov

IRL i did but the people who i talked to weren't that invested into talking with me they simply brushed it off maybe because they didn't wanted to soak up all the negativity or didn't simply care.

But on the Forum here?.No.

Always have being afraid to do so.

sometimes people are ill-equipped to help. Looks like they wont help but really lack the social aptitude to help. All the advice given here can be generally applied to most break up situations.

i know its in hindsight now but surround yourself with people who will stick by you even in tough times. I’m gay, mates who were straight lads didnt know what to say to me when my ex cheated, but they cheered me up and made me feel loved. Its those kinda mates you stick out for

If you offer yourself out to someone to be that kind of friend too, 9/10 they’ll reciprocate. its a give and get kinda thing

I'm a quiet person but i'm going to try. Thanks for the help.