Serious I feel depressed a majority of the time.

[Sil]

how much sunlight do you get

I don't. I sit inside just about all day unless I'm working or in school.

 

[Josh]

yo, i hope i can help you out

going the gym really helped me release the bad feelings, something to do with science n shit
it doesn't even have to be the gym, just partaking in a healthy lifestyle. at first, you might be hesitant like i was, perhaps self-conscious or no effort, you just need to motivate yourself. i managed to, and now i've started i feel so fucking good, and haven't really had any thoughts come back.. please give it a try, i hope it can help you mate x

also- yeah, listen to flippy.

 

[Ond]

Mentally, I (with poor logic) logically deduce that they'll figure it out if I ask them to wait, and with a lot of my problems I want to keep them extremely private because I hate my privacy being broken

Whats wrong with them knowing

If you are a minor and the doctor perscribes you antidepressiv medicine then they'll be informed

If he sends yoy to a shrink they'll be told

Why not get help from the people that literally made you and obviously care since they didn't leave you at the side of the road

Nothing wrong with feeling down and if you can't talk to your parents about that stuff then no doctor will help you
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I don't. I sit inside just about all day unless I'm working or in school.

And this is also your problem

Take part in as much social stuff as you can, get hobby like a sport or something

Swimming is great if you want to release some energy without fearing having to perform infront of people

 

[Sil]

Whats wrong with them knowing

If you are a minor and the doctor perscribes you antidepressiv medicine then they'll be informed

If he sends yoy to a shrink they'll be told

Why not get help from the people that literally made you and obviously care since they didn't leave you at the side of the road

Nothing wrong with feeling down and if you can't talk to your parents about that stuff then no doctor will help you

I feel like all the change is just too much. I hate change being so sudden and immense. It scares me, and makes me want everything to stay the same, even if the same is really shit for me.
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Whats wrong with them knowing

If you are a minor and the doctor perscribes you antidepressiv medicine then they'll be informed

If he sends yoy to a shrink they'll be told

Why not get help from the people that literally made you and obviously care since they didn't leave you at the side of the road

Nothing wrong with feeling down and if you can't talk to your parents about that stuff then no doctor will help you
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And this is also your problem

Take part in as much social stuff as you can, get hobby like a sport or something

Swimming is great if you want to release some energy without fearing having to perform infront of people

Thing is, I'm too vulnerable to go outside and the hobbies I have are basically Gmod RP and Gmod Artwork.

 

[Ond]

I feel like all the change is just too much. I hate change being so sudden and immense. It scares me, and makes me want everything to stay the same, even if the same is really shit for me.
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Thing is, I'm too vulnerable to go outside and the hobbies I have are basically Gmod RP and Gmod Artwork.

Nothing will change and you will get worse unless you talk to them about it

As personal as some relationships with people might seem here the vast majority are superficial which means it's really fucking damaging for someone in your situation to let this be your sole source of social interaction outside of school

Not talking is the worst outcome, isolating yourself isn't good for your brain nor your enviroment as the way you deal with things won't be healthy

And in what way are you vulnerable

 

[Sil]

Nothing will change and you will get worse unless you talk to them about it

As personal as some relationships with people might seem here the vast majority are superficial which means it's really fucking damaging for someone in your situation to let this be your sole source of social interaction outside of school

Not talking is the worst outcome, isolating yourself isn't good for your brain nor your enviroment as the way you deal with things won't be healthy

Talking like this to people is helping me not be isolated. It lets me socialise with people.

 

[Ond]

Talking like this to people is helping me not be isolated. It lets me socialise with people.

You aren't socialising in a healthy way

Only being able to socialise through text and talking to your screen to people you will never meet is not good

You don't have to leave the house alone, go with your parents when they go to buy groceries or shop

 

[Sil]

You aren't socialising in a healthy way

Only being able to socialise through text and talking to your screen to people you will never meet is not good

You don't have to leave the house alone, go with your parents when they go to buy groceries or shop

It might not be the healthiest, but it's helped my mood from an hour ago.

Thank you, @Blackquill

 

[Andrew]

I don't. I sit inside just about all day unless I'm working or in school.

bump that up

take your shirt off and tan more, or wear shorts and a t-shirt in direct sunlight. even when it's ~4 out in direct sunlight you can hit around ~25ish easy as long as you're low to the ground/on a warm surface

sunlight is a key to warding off depression (especially seasonal) since lack of it can cause various mental/physical problems

bonus points if you have a deck, the wood/plastic is usually much warmer in direct sunlight than a seat, they're good in colder areas

also exercise more, I started out with biking in the hilly neighborhood I had years ago and haven't quit any summertime exercise barring when I occasionally break something. I run every night around 9-11pm here, laps up and down until I call it enough.

exercise/sunlight is a key to build confidence which in turn wards off depression

 

[Eli]

Well I can't claim to have ever suffered from depression but here are a few tips from what I've read and from my experience improving aspects of my life:

First off, I assume you have quite a bit of free time judging by the fact you are a part of this community, I may be wrong but if you do you should really consider cutting your time on the server and try to find some hobby outside of gaming that interests you, preferably something that allows you to be creative, you know, wood carving, learn a musical instrument or even learn about history or some other topic that interests you and become really good at it. This has a few purposes, first one is that it will take your mind off of your problems (Just like video games do) and give you something to actually be proud of which will also boost your confidence and the second, when you'll find yourself talking to another person you'll have something interesting to talk about.

Second, you should defiantly go for walks and work out like @Flippy said, if you suffer from social anxiety you can still do those; when you go for a walk just put on your headphones and go, trust me no one will approach you, I've founds walks to be very good for reducing stress. As for working out, you don't want to go the gym? No problem, get yourself a yoga mat and some dumbbells and you're all set.

I'd also strongly suggest watching Jordan Peterson's lectures, he will give you both the hard truth and the ways you should handle your situation.

Also whatever @Evil is saying is absolutely right, seek help but remember at the end of the day no one can help you if you don't help yourself.

 

[Lynx]

The main thing here to recognise is that depression doesn't have a set cure-all.
Therapy and talking can help people just as much as medication can help others.

I'd definitely advise trying to talk it out first, as going on medication is often a harder battle as you may become dependant on the meds.

This is not a reason to decline medication as you may just be better off taking the meds if talking doesn't help.

 

[Garda De Fier]

I think maybe we as a community should try to help John; any of us should be noble members and help out a fellow comrade and if he has a problem or an issue; he should be able to talk to any one of us. @John McRee If you got a problem, buddy - be it anything, feel free to talk to your friends or to people you trust about whatever issues you are going through and we'll be sure to help you out. Nebulous is a "community" after-all.

 

[Ond]

I think maybe we as a community should try to help John; any of us should be noble members and help out a fellow comrade and if he has a problem or an issue; he should be able to talk to any one of us. @John McRee If you got a problem, buddy - be it anything, feel free to talk to your friends or to people you trust about whatever issues you are going through and we'll be sure to help you out. Nebulous is a "community" after-all.

Text on a screen is a really bad outlet

It may seem like you are getting help to you, but you aren't

Talk to people in person, not on the internet

Not talking to people outside of the internet creates an echochamber of bad shit, just look at R9K

 

[Garda De Fier]

Text on a screen is a really bad outlet

It may seem like you are getting help to you, but you aren't

Talk to people in person, not on the internet

Not talking to people outside of the internet creates an echochamber of bad shit, just look at R9K

You might say that Evil, but here's thing thing - John has Aspergers and this is the only outlet he has. It's very easy for us to play arm-chair psychologist and say; "Oh you need to go out and make friends", friendship isn't something you can just seek out of the blue.

 

[Hobo Horse]

Go do acid, figure yourself out or even better rewire yourself.

 

[Sil]

You might say that Evil, but here's thing thing - John has Aspergers and this is the only outlet he has. It's very easy for us to play arm-chair psychologist and say; "Oh you need to go out and make friends", friendship isn't something you can just seek out of the blue.

This.

This is it.

I literally can't just go out and do the whole "go outside and make friends in the real world" because I'm too vulnerable of a person to actually do that.
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Go do acid, figure yourself out or even better rewire yourself.

I've considered LSD a few times. I might try it in the future, but I'm still in school.

 

[Eli]

You might say that Evil, but here's thing thing - John has Aspergers and this is the only outlet he has. It's very easy for us to play arm-chair psychologist and say; "Oh you need to go out and make friends", friendship isn't something you can just seek out of the blue.

Look, I totally agree with you the community should be here for him and support John but this will not solve the problem, the only thing that will is professional help.

 

[Sil]

Look, I totally agree with you the community should be here for him and support John but this will not solve the problem, the only thing that will is professional help.

I can really only tell complete strangers/people that I don't know In real life my issues, because I fear that others will find ways to exploit them. No matter who it is. No matter how illogical it is.

 

[Garda De Fier]

Look, I totally agree with you the community should be here for him and support John but this will not solve the problem, the only thing that will is professional help.

Oh, I agree - a combination of both would do wonders for him - the community helping him out and professional help.

 

[Ace]

I know why I feel depressed, but I don't know how to really fix it.
I want to learn how to not care about things.
Any tips?

shit advice i guess but a big part in this is the mindset you keep.
as in: if you think you are depressed, you will be depressed.
Its easy to say "just think about something else" or "do something" but its not, I know.
something that helped me with my problems was to take a journal with me and just write down whatever came to my mind. Just anything, really. As cliché it sounds, but its much more worth than venting to others verbally. Or can be. To me it felt important to do this by hand; pen and paper. Doing it digitally (in a .txt for example) only had me distracted and turn to do other things.