Serious Stress in Gmod communities

[Deleted member 5501]

Stressed? Frustrated? Upset?

Click 'here' for the easy solution and let all your stress related worries melt away!

 

[MaXenzie]

in regards to my own stress i had to drop hl2rp completely due to my overattachment to characters as a whole

if even a 1 day old character gets PK'd i tend to enter a bout of depression

 

[Bandit]

i dont play hl2rp anymore because most of the smaller communities ive played on are run by neo nazis and the playerbase consisting of hyper emotional furries with self inserted mary janes which are given headstaff and cause the server to fall apart in a month
its frustrating i just wanna rp for gods sake

 

[Luft]

the thing that bothers me most is that people tend to search ways to complain about everything

and i mean everything

instead of just accepting things and just move onward, most peeps tend to go about it for hours and hours

 

[Tzula]

nebulous is pretty much the only gaming community I can be a part of these days without being wracked by anxiety because at least here I know people and admins

I never really feel fully safe though, but roleplay is an addiction, I guess

Kinda reminds me of what I was going to say.

It's not the rp itself. It's the ooc aspect.
There's some other servers I'd love to get into but I can't because of the people on those servers.
If you think nebulous was bad, you should look at other servers and communities that run under the nutscript framework.

Relationships, who your friends with ic and oocly, it's amplified on those servers because everything is informal and there is no real path for progression. It really depends on people you know.

 

[PandaCG]

as sad as it is to admit, it's definitely a real issue that exists outside of games/communities like gmod

back when i got my first REAL staff rank on just about anything, it was in Shockcore Gaming when it was probably in it's most dead state it's ever been in. i spent hours and hours on and off server working at trying to get players back with little help outside the 1-2 active members there were left in the team at the time (most schools were going through their finals around this time too). eventually i got fed up with missing marks and hitting dead ends that i think an unconscious part of me snapped. i hate to say a video game caused me so much stress i had a breakdown, but everyone has some embarrassing part of their life that they've grown to learn from. that's just my own story, you can imagine how crazy things can get for others, especially in a huge community like neb.

no matter how much you enjoy something, it can easily come collapsing on top of you when you start to get serious about it.

as for dealing with the stress, anxiety, what have you: there's infinite explanations for why it happens and how to deal with it, but at the end of the day you gotta learn to walk away. there's a lot to life, don't let anything keep you down. just learn to accept things as they are and keep moving, someday none of this will matter and the only thing you'll be walking away with is what you developed from those days.

 

[cns - he/him/his]

take the red pill and stop caring as much

character died? eh

someone bitching in looc at you? turn it off and eh

ignore people and have your own fun and dont become a staff member unless you're good with retarded children

 

[Rabid]

Honestly there's a lot of people in the RP community who forget the person on the other end is another human being.

The lengths some people will go to make you feel miserable over a hobby through invading your privacy or whatever because they don't know you and have no ties to you (so don't exactly care) still kinda shock me.

 

[Rabid]

In fact there's a story I don't often go into but my first experience with anything negative online actually came as a result of LP. It wasn't that I was ignorant to the negative stuff that could happen but I mean I liked to think I was a nice guy, people didn't have reason to attack me or go after me and all I was doing was staffing a server that people enjoyed, right? I knew Lemonpunch had a reputation but I'd never really been exposed to this sort of RP enviroment before. The idea of someone invading my private life as a means to get at me was just something I didn't understand.

Flash-forward to when Dunjam & Vamure got unbanned after a lengthy amount of time for some sort of dual offence. They get re-banned later that day for breaking S2K rules to shotcop and they post up their appeal. In hindsight I may have been a little rough but I absolutely dismantled their reasoning because, to be blunt, they couldn't keep a straight story and there were too many holes to pick in whatever they said for it to be valid - something regarding what happened and the exact details, it was clear they'd baited the cops there on low pop to have an excuse.

They were serial offenders and their appeal was denied by morning because of that.

Fast forward a few days and another member of the staff team comes to me and says that they've been spreading around private information over TS that they dug up from years and years prior (my early teens sort of early) under one of my prior usernames because I'd pissed them off. They tried to add me on Steam with their names filled with that sort of personal shit. I won't lie - it scared me and I was paranoid for weeks. I'd never thought that sort of thing was something someone would do over a videogame. I didn't want my personal life dragged out and used as leverage.

Eventually they got bored and stopped and I've since spoken to both Dunjam and Vamure at various points in time and they've apologised and what have you but that was the first real major point of stress for me online.

 

[sky]

In fact there's a story I don't often go into but my first experience with anything negative online actually came as a result of LP. It wasn't that I was ignorant to the negative stuff that could happen but I mean I liked to think I was a nice guy, people didn't have reason to attack me or go after me and all I was doing was staffing a server that people enjoyed, right? I knew Lemonpunch had a reputation but I'd never really been exposed to this sort of RP enviroment before. The idea of someone invading my private life as a means to get at me was just something I didn't understand.

Flash-forward to when Dunjam & Vamure got unbanned after a lengthy amount of time for some sort of dual offence. They get re-banned later that day for breaking S2K rules to shotcop and they post up their appeal. In hindsight I may have been a little rough but I absolutely dismantled their reasoning because, to be blunt, they couldn't keep a straight story and there were too many holes to pick in whatever they said for it to be valid - something regarding what happened and the exact details, it was clear they'd baited the cops there on low pop to have an excuse.

They were serial offenders and their appeal was denied by morning because of that.

Fast forward a few days and another member of the staff team comes to me and says that they've been spreading around private information over TS that they dug up from years and years prior (my early teens sort of early) under one of my prior usernames because I'd pissed them off. They tried to add me on Steam with their names filled with that sort of personal shit. I won't lie - it scared me and I was paranoid for weeks. I'd never thought that sort of thing was something someone would do over a videogame. I didn't want my personal life dragged out and used as leverage.

Eventually they got bored and stopped and I've since spoken to both Dunjam and Vamure at various points in time and they've apologised and what have you but that was the first real major point of stress for me online.

i do remember a moment of this where we were in the same ts3 channel at the same time as being on coast as ota
out of nowhere one day, both dunjam and vamure joined our channel (as it was open) and started harassing you, forcing you to move to a different channel

just that kinda speaks for it own

 

[cns - he/him/his]

i remember my gaming moments spent with crash dunjam and vamure they all seemed to hate each other and talk shit behind eachothers back like when crash told me how dunjam forced someone to suck his dick in school

 

[Rabid]

i remember my gaming moments spent with crash dunjam and vamure they all seemed to hate each other and talk shit behind eachothers back like when crash told me how dunjam forced someone to suck his dick in school

Crash sold them out to get an unban and they found out and it turned into one massive shitstorm.

That was generally the case for a lot of the big groups of "doxers" I ended up chatting to during my time as SD (when they'd join at the start of Neb and I'd keep them on good terms by talking w/them and stuff) though, really. Usually they'd actually be a nest of vipers that would rip into one another and do the same shit as they would to strangers until they fell apart.

 

[cns - he/him/his]

Crash sold them out to get an unban and they found out and it turned into one massive shitstorm.

That was generally the case for a lot of the big groups of "doxers" I ended up chatting to during my time as SD (when they'd join at the start of Neb and I'd keep them on good terms by talking w/them and stuff) though, really. Usually they'd actually be a nest of vipers that would rip into one another and do the same shit as they would to strangers until they fell apart.

Crash would keep sending me pictures of money and tell me he scammed people’s credit cards to get them

 

[Angel]

Sometimes it's annoying, but it's not really stressful for me, because when I started playing garry's mod, the solution to everything was trying to frame the other person with child porn, DDoS and dox them (that was more stressful), plus there were way more exploits to gain access to shit and people were just fucking absolute lunatics.

Some of these lunatics that I used to play with either got shot dead (in stuff like armed robberies) or are in jail.
@DemonElite @alex @Roosebud ya'll know how it was LUL

 

[aperson]

remembering all those accounts you made when you were young in your full name with all the details about you

 

[avralwobniar]

doxing people over gmod roleplay in 2019

 

[Raiden]

@PilotBland caused me stress

Administrators caused me stress

The general idea of this community caused me stress

Roleplay doesn’t, just this community really

pilotbland causes his parents stress LOL

 

[PilotBland]

@PilotBland caused me stress

I'm genuinely sorry, I didn't imagine any of my actions to cause anyone undue stress.

 

[the last man]

the best cure to handling stress in this community is to have fun while you're stressed out. If you're not enjoying yourself you should, however, get the fuck out as quickly as possible. My resignation from staff came from the fact that the big churning systems, constant activity and the big time sink wasn't enjoyable anymore. The stress of being staff wasn't justified in the slighest anymore so I resigned. As for cab, a couple of weeks back some real life stuff made me realize that I couldn't shoulder the responsibility and stress of being a constantly involved fac lead any longer, so I (on the closed subforum for cab, not publically) told people that I would be taking a half-step back, letting the faction run itself more hands-off for the foreseeable future.

most stressful situations that i've generally been involved in on the forums and in the community have been inter-faction drama, ooc conflict solving and investigation which has on multiple unspecified occasions driven me very close to snap-resigning from all responsibilities i have, but i've always ultimately been stopped by the same very same responsibility i feel i've got for the continued health of the cab faction

i realize i talk a lot about cab but it's what my presence here in the community is centered around so i suppose i feel i can add some perspectives from that certain viewpoint, whatever that's worth

 

[Rabid]

most stressful situations that i've generally been involved in on the forums and in the community have been inter-faction drama, ooc conflict solving and investigation which has on multiple unspecified occasions driven me very close to snap-resigning from all responsibilities i have, but i've always ultimately been stopped by the same very same responsibility i feel i've got for the continued health of the cab faction

This is a biggie for me.

The RP is fine, the RP isn't stressful in the slightest for me - but invariably when it spills over into OOC it becomes an issue. And I suppose that is the biggest problem I have; Neb is a big community and people cling to any and all sources of drama and half-truth and make it fact. It becomes very difficult to solve anything discreetly or professionally before the mob has whipped themselves up into a frenzy over it. What's worse is, they're typically always wrong and the situation is as big as a mountain before anyone can respond to it.

It doesn't matter how minor the issue is and how swiftly it could be handled behind closed doors, either.

There's a lot of fantastic people in this community but equally there are people here who are remarkably two-faced or only here to stir the pot.