again unsure how much time i gotfeel happy for them
but if they're no longer happy together than make yourself happy with her
you planning on uni? or you going into work straight away?again unsure how much time i got
almost wrapping up school, wont be here for the summer, people grow apart with time
if it works out great, if theyre happy great, dont think ill wait though
no no no no dont encourage being an orbiter lmaoswoop in when they break up
just want to say @Mute what i would say to someone in one of our sessions if they came to me with this:man i really need to get this out
i have absolutely fucking destroyed my fingers cause anxietys kicked into 12th gear and i keep picking and biting at them so im semi-bleeding over my keyboard while i type this but i guess its for a positive reason
was debating where to post it but i need some i dunno advice or something
a while ago i made a post on the lgbt thread suspecting i didnt experience attraction, at the time i was in a pretty fucked up place mentally as i was the past few years, and the reason for it was due to me never experiencing "true attraction" so i was wondering if its that, guess not
had a crush for a few years now but never really spoke to her cause i was quite afraid and extremely closed off (and of social interaction in general), recently though ive been talking with a lot more people and becoming more open and shit and its been paying off so hooray, made a few friends for the first time in years
one of those friends happened to be the same crush mentioned previously
i cannot tell you how fucked up its got me dude i know some people are gonna see this and laugh but i genuinely didnt know you could even fucking feel this way, when people talked about it or i read about it in books or saw movies and tv shows i thought it was in an actual metaphorical sense to put it in perspective. my feelings for her kinda got kicked up to max
spoke to a few female friends to get their opinion and they say she likes me back, but i dunno, we've been talking quite actively for a week now (despite being in the same class for 4 years now), been watching horror movies she recommends me cause shes a big horror nut, spoke up until like 4-5am a few times, she says she finds me really funny, made an offhand comment about worrying for people she cares about after i went to bed early yesterday cause i had a massive fucking headache like never before. she's given me a few compliments about my hair and clothes
i genuinely just think she's being polite
yeah writing it out i feel fucking dumb too but im extremely fucking neurotic and she's really pretty and i feel like i got no fucking chance right cause she could probably pull any dude in the country
tomorrow we're going to an escape room with a few friends from school, was thinking of inviting her to coffee beforehand casually to discuss strategies and maybe giving her a note afterwards before we head home telling her what i feel
guess its kinda like my final chance since schools shut down since theres massive union protests for wages so idk when theyre gonna open back up, and even then theres only one month of school before we graduate
still feel like im gonna fuck it up though or she wont reciprocate and i really dont wanna lose her as a friend
gahd fuckin damn
nvm shes got a boyfriend mission aborted
terrible advice, don't do this - rebounds are a very real thingswoop in when they break up
extremely based and good adviceno no no no dont encourage being an orbiter lmao
dont go looking for a relationship and dont wait for one either, good shit comes your way when you aren't actively searching for it gamer
if they are in a relationship that started because they were in school together, and it also happens to be the way you got to know her, then you will more than likely never see this person again once school is over unless you go to university too and share the same classesagain unsure how much time i got
almost wrapping up school, wont be here for the summer, people grow apart with time
if it works out great, if theyre happy great, dont think ill wait though
uni, but we arent going into the same major(?)/collegeyou planning on uni? or you going into work straight away?
tinder, kinguni, but we arent going into the same major(?)/college
honestly surprisingly im sort of over it already, spoke about it with a few friends as well
thanks for the advice to everyone who posted as well
it was a good lesson in not waiting and putting shit off though
I wouldn't recommend Tinder if you wanna gather experience.tinder, king
if you are old enough
getting out there and getting experience is, by itself, good for learning
idk what it’s like out where you live, but if you're going to uni (especially if you're living there) you'll probably meet so many people you wouldn't believeuni, but we arent going into the same major(?)/college
I’m in your same boat gamer, broke my heart when I found out but tbh after a while I said if she’s happy I’m happy. You can find other people. On the bright side you can still be friends!nvm shes got a boyfriend mission aborted
tinder, king
if you are old enough
getting out there and getting experience is, by itself, good for learning
isnt the algorithm based on not swiping right too much and picky people being prefered??I would not recommend any Dating apps. They do work occasionally however I’m studying Marketing and on the topic of dating apps we’ve discovered their algorithm is biased against you if you are male. Promoting people who pay more and overall attempting /not/ to find you love. After all if you find something you won’t use the app anymore.
You’d have more luck stumbling through some bars or clubs (or classes if you’re in college) than dating apps.
I wouldn't recommend Tinder if you wanna gather experience.
People on Tinder tend to be shallow and superficial and when you find matches they usually don't respond. I went to a Dance Course and met new people through this and we all shared same hobby and got to know us eachother.
But Dating Apps are real shit, people with high expectations because they themselves only want the best, for them you're just picture.
i'm keeping it real gamers, results vary depending on your approach and appearanceI’m in your same boat gamer, broke my heart when I found out but tbh after a while I said if she’s happy I’m happy. You can find other people. On the bright side you can still be friends!
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I would not recommend any Dating apps. They do work occasionally however I’m studying Marketing and on the topic of dating apps we’ve discovered their algorithm is biased against you if you are male. Promoting people who pay more and overall attempting /not/ to find you love. After all if you find something you won’t use the app anymore.
You’d have more luck stumbling through some bars or clubs (or classes if you’re in college) than dating apps.
isnt the algorithm based on not swiping right too much and picky people being prefered??
also, even if this is true; it's still a good way to get out there. shallow people, whatever bias you've already got, its the place to go out on dates and actually get some experience in. i fundamentally disagree with this being a bad thing for social development and confidence
when I tried them out all I got was super shallow college girls being thrown into mine. you need the worlds best banger cover photo since that's all anyone will look at, and you need to talk some mad crazy game otherwise you'll get zero responses. if you dont got that, then you have to be on the grind treatin that shit like an mmoisnt the algorithm based on not swiping right too much and picky people being prefered??
also, even if this is true; it's still a good way to get out there. shallow people, whatever bias you've already got, its the place to go out on dates and actually get some experience in. i fundamentally disagree with this being a bad thing for social development and confidence
even if so, its still a good place for dates. if anything, that first meeting is a good figure of "is this a catfish" or "am i gonna get robbed and killed".As I mentioned it might work, however so would going outside. And I don’t see tinder as much as a dating site than hook up site from what I’ve seen, however I admit that might just be pre-biases I was taught so I’m probably wrong on that.
as long as you dont front like you think the first woman you run into is gonna be a longterm relationship, its fine. just play the tinder game, know its just numbers and that if someones swiped you, they evidently find you hot; and fake it til you make it. its really not all that, and its good date practice.when I tried them out all I got was super shallow college girls being thrown into mine. you need the worlds best banger cover photo since that's all anyone will look at, and you need to talk some mad crazy game otherwise you'll get zero responses. if you dont got that, then you have to be on the grind treatin that shit like an mmo
But what if ? you want a meaningfull relationship instead of a one-night stand.i'm keeping it real gamers, results vary depending on your approach and appearance
dating apps arent any more superficial than real life
people don't approach people they don't find attractive, and if you have shit chat odds are they won't respond either
staying in your shell and refusing to interact with women unless its in REAL LIFE just isn't the way things are done anymore, and it's easier when you know what people are there for from the get-go
2 of my relationships came from tinder, but i have also used it for casual stuff in-between and beforehandBut what if ? you want a meaningfull relationship instead of a one-night stand.
If you go to Dating Apps for pussy then, it's fine i agree on that one because the people on those apps want something similiar.
But for people who want a serious and long lasting relationship it's important to pick a partner who is compatibile to you and on Dating Apps you won't happen to find those with exception of older people who have a bit more life experience.
I am more of a calm person and i just want some to spend time with someone, who can back me up on my harder days. My experience taught me, i still need to wait and in the mean time i'm just going to grind.